4 steps to help turn your dream into reality!
We've all got dreams, some of us have many... but sadly for a lot of us they're things we never get around to. My dream seven years ago was to travel the world and spend some time living abroad. I can proudly say that I pursued that dream until it became a reality and five years on I'm still living it! If you can say the same you should be incredibly proud of yourself. But if your dream is still an idea floating around in your head, it's time you did something about it.
No doubt whatever it is that you're dreaming of, you've thought about it, talked about it and maybe even started planning it! but right when it comes time to take the first real step towards it, something comes up... and it keeps happening over and over again. The cold hard truth is this; the only thing stopping you is fear. One of my favourite quotes is; "fear is temporory, but regret lasts forever" those seven words echoed through my mind whenever I felt scared and like I wanted to retreat back to my comfort zone. Some days I still struggle! and in those moments that small sentence will always come back, burning itself into my vision until I remember how strong I am and why I chose this path.
Whatever your dream is it's time to stop making excuses, stop being afraid, and start the wheels in motion. It won't come knocking on your doorstep, you've gotta get off your butt and go get it!
1. First and most importantly you need to reorganise your priorities.
I believe one of the biggest reasons people fail to reach their goals is because they don't make it a priority. In order to succeed you've got to make sacrifices! I needed to save alot of money to follow my dream, so that became my number one focus and everything else came second. Going out to eat/drink/party ceased, shopping for clothes stopped, holidays became simple camping trips. That went on for almost 2 years until I'd finally saved enough money to take the first real step towards my goal, which for me was booking a one way flight to Europe. If I hadn't made the concious decision to reorganise my priorities I'd probably still be in my home town, filled with regret. SO! whatever it is you're dreaming of, from now on that comes first and everything else revolves around it. Wether it's writing a book, saving for travel, saving for a house, getting fit, whatever it is - make it your main focus. Money wise you can make cuts very easily, most of us just don't want to. And time wise, it's the same deal. I think people struggle with prioritising mostly because we tend to have a 'you only live once' attitude - especially when we're young! which leads to flittering away our time and our money. Just keep reminding yourself how rewarding reaching the end goal will be, it'll be tough getting there but it'll be worth it!
2. Now take a moment to reflect on your fears, because in order to conquer them you need to acknowledge them.
Think of all the reasons why you might be nervous about turning your dream into reality. What is it that you're afraid of? are you scared of travelling alone? of venturing into the unknown and handling business solo? are you worried your abilities aren't good enough? or is it the time you'll spend pursuing your dream? are you afraid it will be time wasted? in answer to all of those things I will say one thing; believe in yourself. Human beings can do exraordinary things! each one of us is far stronger and far more capable than we think. Now grab a pen and a piece of paper and make two pro's vs con's lists, one for continuing life as you currently are and another one for pursuing your dream. What are the pro's and con's of reaching your goal? What are the pro's and con's of letting it slip by the wayside? I guarantee the pro's of pursuing it will outweigh those of letting it go, and I guarantee the con's will be worth it! Another question to ask youself, and one which has calmed me during many moments of panic and/or doubt is 'what's the worst thing that could happen?' for example, if I'm lost in a foreign country I will stop for a moment, take a few deep breaths and ask myself two things; 1) what's the worst thing that could happen? and 2) what are my options? the answer to the first question is never equal to the panic that had been coursing through my veins a moment before! once I've reassured myself everything will be fine I'll then go through my options, choose whichever one makes the most sense and then off I go again. I have never been in a situation that I couldn't work my way out of, the key is believing in yourself. Like I said, fear is temporary!
3. Next is to take the first significant step and don't look back!
Wether it's booking a flight, contacting a publisher, doing a workout or paying a tuition fee, the most important part of this whole journey is that very first step. If you're brave enough to take it, everything else that comes after will feel much less frightening. I knew a girl once who was planning on moving abroad, she was so excited and it was all she spoke about! she had a job lined up, a place to stay when she arrived, and a friend there to help her settle in - an ideal situation for a beginner expat! BUT, when it came time to book the flight all of a sudden she could no longer go, something had come up. The reality? she was too scared to take the first step, she let fear get the better of her. Don't be that girl! be the person who looks fear dead in the eye and says "LET'S DO THIS!!!" nobody has ever achieved anything without being brave enough to begin! and trust me, the rewards far exceed the scary parts.
4. Last but not least, stay motivated!
Don't lose sight of what you're working towards. Our most desired dreams are things which aren't easily attained. They take time, effort, courage, and sacrifice. If it was easy we'd have accomplished it already! When you're working towards a 12 month, 2 year or even 5 year goal it's easy to feel tempted to give up... don't. You need to remain driven and focused, keep going and keep envisioning how you'll feel when you accomplish what you've set out to achieve. A tip for keeping motivated is to break your progress up into stages, don't focus solely on the end goal otherwise you'll feel like you're getting nowhere - baby steps! progress takes time. If your goal is to save $20,000 then aim to save $5,000 first, then 10, then 15 and before you know it BOOM! you're there. If it's reaching a target weight then break it up into kilograms, aim first to lose 2, then 4, then 6, then 8, and all of a sudden you've lost 10 kilos. You CAN do it!
Now, the very moment after you've finished reading this post, put your phone/laptop/tablet down and do something productive towards reaching your goal. If it's travelling the world then start planning where you want to go! If it's getting fit then go for a fast paced walk until you're sweating like a pig. Stop putting it off and START RIGHT NOW! Remember, the time is going to pass anyway so you might as well use it productively. Good luck 😉
Over and out x
P.S - I would LOVE to hear what your different dreams/goals are! please comment and let me know what you're working towards 🙂